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May 10, 2011


Well, I don't know if you noticed this, but we've been headed back to the 50s for quite some time....certainly from the Reagan Era on...

My sweetie is a gamer. We are about to shack-up together, which means many nights of him going on 'missions' w/his group. That's just a fact. He's a top notch fellow who is generally free of deal-breaking flaws. I accept his gamer-ness and appreciate that he asked me if I would like to join them. I did respectfully decline so that he has his 'spaceshipping time' and I can do 'my thing' whatever it is at that point. Granted, this may necessitate some wireless headphones so that I can watch tele/movies in the same room as mission nights, but hey - he's not an asshole, I can easily deal...and don't need an ice cream bar to feel solid about it. I love him...and he does listen to me so SCORE! :)

What bothers me most about this is that, according to "popular opinion" the bar is set so goddamn low for men, especially married men. As if you win spouse of the year for just getting your fat-ass off the couch and into pants with a zipper. Infuriating.

Ben, exactly. This isn't really a compliment to men in any way, acting like they've won the lottery when they manage to not set themselves on fire while loading the dishwasher. It sets the expectation that men are dumbasses, while giving women a pass to treat men like pets they have to scold and control.

Life is too short to live in a relationship where one of you's the prisoner and the other one's the guard. Unless you like that, you perverts.


Yeah, that guy doesn't look like he's been too deprived of Klondike bars.

dr2chase: Well, he only has to listen to his wife for a whole minute in order to score a dozen. *headdesk*

Athenae: No kidding. I used to get looks of admiration from my friends' wives because I would VOLUNTARILY cook, and clean, and do laundry. Shit, if I were single I'd have to do all of that anyway...

A, do not encourage my brother. He lives in Alaska, which means he's probably been infected with Palinism. It's dangerous to us all.

WOOO! *wildly fires a shotgun into the air*

To be fair, A, I have in the past managed to set myself on fire doing far simpler things than loading a dishwasher.

I'm a guy, and I have a fairly low opinion of guys because, well, I am one. We can be fantastic, romantic, thoughtful and compassionate... we can also be a useless pack of utter pillocks.

But I cannot imagine marrying anyone that I did not actually want to listen to. Do I sometimes tune out a little when I'm listening to my girlfriend? It happens, especially when I'm tired and just about ready to pass out... but the rest of the time I will listen and talk for hours about anything at all. Why? Because we acually interest one another.

Amazing, I know.

For my next trick, I'll finish the dinner dishes and tell my gal that I love her. I won't ask her opinion of advertisers, because we both share Bill Hicks' opinion that the world would be a happier place once advertising and marketing people take their own lives.

What a wonderful world that would be: no commercials, we all get to buy what we need or want without being huckstered at every time we open our eyes. Marvellous.

As I do most of the cooking in the Feral household, I also do the grocery shopping which means I have to pick up many other household items as well. I constantly get amazed looks and comments from women when I check out and am buying tampons. It shouldn't be that big of a deal.

This reminds me of when I had to move out to California for a while, while I was still dating my now spouse. A woman I knew seemed very surprised that my boyfriend would go all the way out to the coast with me to help me get settled. She seemed to think I should consider myself extra lucky that he would want to spend the time with me. I couldn't, and still can't, figure out what she thought the point of having a boyfriend was (or for him having a girlfriend) if he *wouldn't* enjoy being with me more than other things he might be doing. The notion that men and women only belong together for nearly anonymous sex in the dark is still a pretty common one even though every day people get married or move in together because they actually want the total package: person, cooking, laundry, sex, gossip, back rubs, bike rides, kids, parents, etc...


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