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November 20, 2012


(Also, apparently lesbian moms are not a threat, though you would think, if being around someone who could potentially want to sex you was cause for concern, this would be an issue, too.)

Silly Athenae, everyone knows lesbians are too busy hating men and drinking kombucha to have sex with anyone.

I ran into many of these stereotypes when I was a SAHD. It drove me insane. Actually, it drove me back into the work place. Many SAHMs have internalized these fears--no all, but even in the progressive SF Bay Area, it was well over half of the SAHMs I interacted with. They would only do group playdates me and my daughter and they stopped talking when I came into the kitchen if they were complaining about their husbands. My wife was never jealous, nor did she care for Moms Night Out. The SAHMs I'm still friends with, even though I'm not SAH anymore, are the ones who didn't mind having a male parent confidant, didn't care if we were alone or in a group, and definitely didn't mind texting or calling--just as friends do.

Back in college, one summer I was lifeguard for a camp for a major Christian denomination known to be fundamentalist. I could understand that the camp promoted modest swimming attire. One rule I found odd (including camp staff and an adult program)persons of the opposite sex could not swim at the same time.

However the rule did not prohibit anyone being on the beach which was fenced off from the swimming area. Nor did the male lifeguards have to leave to let the women swim. (Well I suppose if a guy stood on the beach with a telephoto lens, shooting pictures like crazy, I probably would have had to suggest his actions were unbecoming).

What really made it odd was that the location was in a state at the north (almost touched Canada). The explanation was that a lot of the camp leaders and the oversight for the camp were from Texas where that apparently was the norm.

Jesus Christ in a chicken basket that is dumb.

Maybe it's the new 'housewife at home in curlers eating bon-bons'? 'Stay-at-home-dad on the prowl for playdates'?

(When I first glanced at the article I thought 'playdates' was some kind of new-fangled slang for 'dates'.)

I did lots of childcare when mine were small and had lots of playground and chatty time with members-of-the-opposite-sex-some-of-whom-were-super-attractive. And lo! I didn't trip into bed with any of them and, you know, if I had it wouldn't have been the fault of a toddler playdate.

WTF is wrong with people.

Oh, I'm sure it's just for "safety" so those poor helpless moms don't get raped...

Though I think the "don't be alone with guys" "safety" advice comes from the same underlying theory. Men can't control their sexual impulses and women can't fend off horny men? The only difference is that SAHDs are nice enough to seduce you instead of just rape you, I guess.

I actually understand the "stop bitching about your husband when another man comes in the room" impulse. At best, it could just be that they were bitching/talking about something personal (probably sexual) that's awkward in mixed company (because we've been trained that way, but still). At worst, it could be "all men are pigs" bitching, which is basically the equivalent of telling a racist joke when someone of that ethnic group comes in (at least they have enough awareness to realize it could be offensive).

What I don't understand is impulse to bitch about their husbands instead of bitching to their husbands so they might get some of these issues resolved.

I feel so much safer down here in rural nowhere. I barely know what a PlayStation is, and now y'all have Play Dates that have something to do with parents watching kids while groping other parents watching kids?

And all this time, I thought that only occurred in the Beltway, between the House Majority leader and the Whip.

Guess I need a refresher course in city slicker ways, or a subscription to MakeItBetter.daddyporn

Funny, it sounds like cautioning oversexed SAHM's about falling for testosterone-deprived SAHD's.

But when stereotyping meets stupidity, it's unlikely that anything comprehensible will results.

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