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February 07, 2013


I'd have to say it is a fine line.

Dreaming is a way of finding what enlivens you. It helps you explore new areas. It gives you the energy to deal with getting on the ice at 4AM every morning. It is a way of teaching dedicated work. Following a dream teaches you how to overcome obstacles. Even dreaming and failing isn't necessarily bad as you both learn to deal with failure and to mold your dream to something different.

But, as in Les Miz, the tigers come at night.

The champion figure skaters of today have their newborn hospital pictures in the bassinet, wearing figure skates (I wouldn't be surprised if someone is working on a proceedure to permanently implant skates in utero.) I can't imagine how destructive this one-sided / one-dimensional psyche could be - especially in knowing that the percentage of even these champion skaters managing to make the transfer to a professional career is low enough to be essentially zero. Working so hard on this dream can crowd out the benefits of having other dreams. Plus, if you walk away from your dream, you always wonder "what if..."

Additionally, we've become a world where one must devote huge resources to develop many dreams. The figure skater needs a parent to haul them to the ice every morning and afternoon. The outfits cost loads of money. There's transportation to local meets. There is transportation as well as hotel, etc. for regional and national meets. And if one wants to be at the top, they must have exposure to their top competitors including top coaches.

I find this a very pernicious effect in that the Romneys and Bushes of the world have the resources to either do these things or hire someone to do them. Their kids grow up hearing that they can do it and getting the accolades for being the top skater / top salesperson of the stuff your band sells to get some funds for music and uniforms/ etc. If and when they fail they have someone there to pick them back up. If they have problems in school their parents can hire tutors. Their wealthy parents assure that in business they have a distinct edge of getting to the top.

OTOH - someone in the lower 50% (and yes I mean to say at least half, or probably more like 75%. Admittedly there are exceptions). They don't get the opportunities to succeed. Their parents can't afford it so they are told they can't. It becomes a repeating slap at them that starts from the outside but readily works itself into their head to become a self-criticism and self-fulfilling prophecy.

Along a similar balance, the link touts the modern mantra of just believe in yourself. A healthy self confidence is good. But there is also a certain realism. For example, as hard as I practiced piano as a kid, there is no way I'd ever be another Rachmaninov.

I don't know who it was that came up with the reductive, lazy, insulting concept that all you need to do is dream about what you're going to do and it'll just happen, but I want to punch that person right out.

You better start training to fight.


My 4 year old watched the '98 winter olympics with us and particularly loved Tara Lipinsky. "Wan be her", she said. On the bright side, she did learn to become a fine Irish Step dancer:)

i embrace my sloth nature.

This is so good. Needs to be syndicated. I had to learn about effort and planning from a boyfriend when I was a sophomore in college. I still haven't caught up to his level of discipline but at least I learned what it takes. Thanks, A!!!

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